In life, there are two more questions you should constantly ask yourself, for most of you that carry out self-appraisals and personal retreats on how far you have come in life and how far you can go, you need to consciously probe yourselves with these questions:
1) Am I willing to serve others? You say you want to be a leader? Why? Until you answer that question with the right motives, God won’t promote you. Sometimes we just want to be in control. Other times we don’t want to pay the price for success. We just want the perks that come with it: a corner office with a good view, a higher salary, a respected title, status cars with full complements and the admiration of others. Jesus said, ‘Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant.’ Leadership puts you in a position to take care of your own needs first–to set yourself up–before helping others. That’s always a temptation and it’s always wrong! You must genuinely care about people and help them to reach their potential. When you do that you’re honouring God and He will honour you.
2) Am I doing what I’m called to do? ‘We have different gifts, according to the grace given us’ (Romans 12:6 NIV). Samuel Johnson said, ‘Almost every man wastes part of his life in attempts to display qualities which he does not possess… and gain applause which he cannot keep.’ If you’re harbouring a mental image of the qualities talented people are supposed to have and you don’t possess, you’ll have a hard time finding your true strengths. Henry Ford remarked, ‘The question, “Who ought to be the boss?” is like asking, “Who ought to be the tenor in the quartet?” Obviously, the man who can sing tenor.’ To succeed in life, you must know what God gifted you to do.
What you stand for is what you would be known for. Set yourself on the pedestal where people would mirror their lives on yours, I drive to work everyday and see posters, flyers, wall drapes and massive large format prints for politicians who are seeking to become public servants but what worries me is “Do they really want to serve? Do they really understand what service is all about?” I worry much about this and pray they get their motives right.
I am not a big fan of Goodluck Ebele Jonathan or his government, I have never thought this my Nigeria would get to where it is now of almost falling off the cliff, well this is where we find ourselves and I believe on #BokoHaram and Security GEJ has failed Nigeria.
I went through Facebook today and saw some annoying pictures, please please let’s stop circulating false pictures with the headline Boko Haram kills 2000 Baga or Muslims Burn Christians in Jos Massacre it weakens our credibility. I mean this picture below that has become the unofficial face of Baga originated from an Oil Tanker explosion in Congo that happened in 2010 but yet every time a tragedy happens someone digs this picture up and starts circulating it and people/media without fact checking just pick it up and spread it. I recall a picture sometime that went viral on Facebook claiming armed robbers kills over 100 passengers and drove buses on their corpses on Benin Ore Expressway. This actually happened somewhere in west Africa and not Nigeria.
Nigeria is in a shitty situation and we need REAL change … but yet we need to ensure that we are sticking to the facts and not helping spread shit! That’s it I am out…
A respected counsellor says: ‘First you crawled; then you learned to walk and the world grew bigger. Then you rode a bike… drove a car… bought a plane ticket. Suddenly the horizons were limitless. Then doubts crept in: I can’t (you fill in the blank)… and your world shrinks a little. I shouldn’t take that trip… I’ll never find my way around… I’ve too many responsibilities. And it shrinks a little more… [until] you’re sitting in a little box with the lid tightly affixed. No experiences, no lessons, no life. Boxes can be comfortable… but no matter how cosy you make it, it’s still a box. They come in all shapes and sizes.
When we let unrealistic fears hold us back we can be fairly certain we’re climbing inside another box… and sooner or later we’ll run into the walls. Find one small “I can’t” in your life and take the lid off the box… try for a minor impossibility… apply for that dream job… start pursuing your vision… Poke the top off your box. Stick your head out and look around. Find a fear and turn it into a ladder. Get out of the box of doubt and insecurity and into the freedom of courage and belief.’ If you let it, fear will cause your imagination to run riot. But ‘God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind’ (2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV). A sound mind restores your perspective and helps you see things from God’s viewpoint, where all things are possible.
Today He wants to give you the courage to climb out of the box and bring you ‘into a large place’, because He ‘delights’ in you. We most times stay in our comfort zone and the failure to launch drives us to mediocre contentment, we usually get too relaxed where we are without a sense of moving on. I was once a victim of this attitude until I woke up someday realizing I was almost left in the past and friends and family members have all moved. The major cause of this is usually over analysis, over processing ideas and not taking decisions on time. I am however not suggesting you should run eyes closed into decisions. I belong to the school of thought that believes that the best way to succeed. Once I get an idea I run it by my wife and my 3rd person, my mind, critically get the pros and cons and what my exit plan plus plan B would be then I hit the ground running.
I am motivated by a quote from Sir Richard Branson….”If your dreams don’t scare you, then they are too small” yes I set them so high that most times I forget that my resources would not come close to starting the project talk more of finishing it, well that drives me as I always want to see the end. The worse thing to do in life is not to take a risk, nature would forgive you for taking a wrong decision but would certainly not forgive you for not taking a decision at all. (this however does not suggest that we indulge in immoral acts) they might not take you to the point where you have an option to recover from natures punishment.
I would like you to consider it, take a leap today, step out of the box, and expand your thinking.
If your mind could stretch to the limits of your thinking, how wide can you think?
Yes, I know most of you would be so used to this kind of picture, yes as a typical Lagosian, when you come out as early as 5am and by 9am you are still in traffic just because the President is coming to town and he would not even go through this route but officials have started blocking even streets and crescents everywhere. Yes you know its election season here again.
My only thoughts now would be Where are we all actually headed? The destination is so unknown, well not if you have your Permanent Voters Card. We need to vote change (Like we are even sure of that change) we just are all consoled by the saying “The demon you know is better than the angel you don’t know”
I was joking with my friends to say I would hurriedly go process a US visa for myself and my family so we have an easy exit out of Nigeria in the event of any unforeseen, he laughed and said a million and one Nigerians have same plan, and for all you care this is so true. Well this is home and you never run away from home. I would only stay positive and get the best of all.
I only pray the president rounds up on time and leaves LAGOS for us as we continue our hussle.
Stumbled on this on Youtube.
I like the part he said Pastors are gathering around the President like Vultures. This is some guts to speak up, well this comes few months after he clearly adopts and patronizes the First lady and her entourage publicly during a church service. i ask myself, what level of self deceit is this? How much would we continue to bear their rubbish? and he dare calls the name of the Holy Spirit in the video below.
Now what would he be teaching his congregation? Can we just hold on to one faith and let our YES be YES and our NO be NO.
I am practically ashamed and highly embarrassed. The altar of God has become a stage for sycophancy.
Please see for yourself. What a shame.
So much for helping the masses….yes the masses… I see them fighting for food … This is pathetic and shameful.