WHAT DO WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE?

I was out with my wife yesterday and as we chatted, the question came up: “What do women find attractive in men?” I was curious about her take, so she said without hesitation: “Humor and confidence.” Then, she hesitated. I’m sure she wanted to name a third quality, but couldn’t make up her mind: brains? Posture? Charisma? Wit? Audacity? So we stopped and asked two girls sitting by the wayside. “Smile”, one said, and the other added: “A man’s eyes.” And I say: all of it is spot-on, and the good news is, a man can develop every attractive feature women desire. Even the eyes and the smile.

Appearance and personality

It’s funny: my intuitive answers to my friend’s questions – classic “pickup” knowledge turned into reflexes – described qualities of character, while the girls quickly responded with physical appearances – a smile, the eyes. “Visible” things. I think we’re both right. And we’re both saying the same thing.

I know a bunch of guys who know how to smile and have eyes like Terence Hill or Johnny Depp. Yet, they suck when it comes to women – and not in a good way. If I’d introduced them to the two ladies, they would have made sure to run away before boredom would render them immobile and endlessly expose them to these guys’ monotonous droning and drooling.

Yet, a man that has his personality, confidence and demeanor together will almost automatically have the smile and eyes to go with them. To become attractive, you want to work on both: personality and appearance.

Let’s look at the the skills before we explore how to get in.

Personality

To trigger attraction in a woman, you want to be:

– Challenging
– Smart
– Funny
– Confident

Traits like these build your charismatic personality. You can be challenging by playfully teasing a girl: “Oh, you just want me for my body“, “I’ll have to break up with you and keep our car and pet platypus“, “and you think that’s how you earn points with me?” Re-frame your interaction as a sexual treat that she’s trying to earn, but is in the process of losing.