The dictionary defines the act forgiveness as ‘to cease, to resent, pardon, acquit, overlook, release, free or pass over”. This is a very powerful tool that can help our marriages yet we all trivialized the role of what forgiveness can play in our intra and interpersonal relationships. We can all learn to walk in forgiveness, when we choose to lose our rights to be hurt by our spouses action and this is God’s sure way of freeing us from the oppression and bondage of offences.
Offences can breed a strong hold on our hearts when permitted. It can torture our minds. The enemy of our souls use unforgiveness as a tool to bring garbage into our lives. We must pay closer attentions to issues related to anger, resentments, bitterness, hatred, and untold negative feelings, not to allow them in any way to affect our relationship in marriage.
‘For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there”. You might ask, don’t I have a right to be hurt or try to express how I feel in any given situation? Yes you do, but only do not allow such to linger on, deal with it and get on with an assurance of peace in your heart towards your spouse because ‘the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits”. We can never get to operate a successful relationship without learning to let go of any given cause for offence.
We don’t all feel naturally to forgive especially when others wrong us, but when we allow God and let go, then we learn how to forgive and live in true harmony with ourselves and others. Forgiveness releases us from the pain associated with hurt. ‘When we truly forgive, we won’t retaliate, threaten, hate, judge, condemn, anger at slight provocations, reject, and resent in any way’. We need to all learn to let go of issues of yesterday trying to contaminate our today and future. We must not hold on to our space always thinking we are the good one. The best days are ahead of us!