All relationships have their ups and downs. When you are in a relationship with a person with very high and very low moods, there is always the threat of abuse, whether it is physical of emotional.
Why don’t women speak out about abuse? – that is a common question asked and I think there are many reasons: shame (because mostly these husbands are oh so sweet in front of others – certainly not the type you would expect it from), fear (of the unknown and also what he will do to you if you spoke out), but most importantly, these abusers know exactly how to play people. “She’s lying”, “She’s over-reacting”, “She pushed me” – so basically, they leave you with nothing.
I think it’s important for a woman to have courage to speak out. It really doesn’t matter what others think of you, your life is more important. If there are kids around, you need to speak out sooner rather than later.
You are the biggest role models for your children. Do you want your daughter to be a wimp that’s beaten up by some low-life scumbag or do you want your son to be turned into an abusive low-life scumbag?
Think carefully and then take action.
Firstly, you need to get away from him.
Then you need to file a case with the local police.
Finally, find help for your children and for yourself.
Don’t let him back in your life, no matter what. Your children will appreciate it one day.