Dear loved one,
The making of a solid relationship will always result in 5 things which becomes the litmus test for the relationship:
Mutual Enjoyment: People in solid relationships learn to spend time together just for the joy of being together and value added friendship and commitment. Unfortunately the busyness of life causes us to forget what a joy this can be in our lives.
Shared Experiences: Helen Keller said of herself, “I may have been blind, but I had 20/20 vision when it came to relationships: “My friends have made the story of my life in a thousand ways, they have turned my limitations into beautiful privileges, enabled me to walk serene and happy in the shadow cast by my deprivation.”
Trust: Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “The glory of friendship is not just in the outstretched hand nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship; it is in the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when we discover that someone else believes in us and is willing to trust us.” Paul wrote in one of his classics “Love never gives up”
Reciprocity: All relationships will experience ebb and flow. Sometimes one person is the primary giver and the other party a recipient or vice-versa. But a solid relationship will always be two-sided. Friendships are like bank accounts, which when we continue to draw on without making deposits can lead to bankruptcy.
Mutual Respect: How do you build mutual respect in relationships? When you don’t allow your differences to take priority over the synergy in the relationship. When in spite of the pressure in relationships, you can still treat people with patience and kindness to preserve the relationship.
A true friend loves at all times irrespective of whatever may be the outcome of life. We must all work to build solid relationships that will endure the test of time. Time is an asset to our friendship relationships. We must walk the talk by loving others unconditionally irrespective of our perceived impressions about them. Life is too short for an experiment in resentments, bitterness and un-forgiveness. Do you desire people’s friendship, and then show yourself friendly!