“Jack had a bad temper and his Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he loses his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day Jack had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father and he then suggested that he begin to pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper, The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence, He said, ‘You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. This is what happens when you say things in anger; they leave a scar that doesn’t go away easily. So no matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound will still be there”.
We must please note that verbal wound can be as bad as a physical one. We must learn to treat others with dignity, respect and honour in the face of grievances, complaints and disagreements. Solomon said “he who has control over his emotion of anger can capture a whole city”. We must overcome negative emotion with good disposition and not to match evil for evil. How we use words can often make or mar our relationships. Friends are rare jewels, they make us smile, encourage us to succeed but sometimes they can hurt us, drive us to tears. Friends can lend their ears, share words of praise, open their hearts but they also have the tendencies to hurt us the most. We must learn to tend, guard, guide and nurture our relationships and not live in anger, bitterness and resentment.