PERSONAL VALUES

Values are simply defined as worth, merit, importance and moral. It means your relative worth and moral principles that you run your life on. Values are those things that help us make reasonable decisions when we are faced with challenging moments, difficulties and temptations in life. Your values are your inner compass guide. Everyone has instincts or conscience to be able to make wise decisions which can be fully developed based on your relationship with God. Our creator has put within us gifts, talents in potential form which must be discovered, developed, released and maximized. You are a child born in due season, packaged to affect your generation positively. You are a solution provider, don’t in any way live to become part of the problem. As you climb your ladder of success you must constantly ask yourself this basic question “if you were thrown up and emptied, what will become of you and what stuff will it suggest that you are made of at the end of the day?

 You must watch out for the hindrances to the development of sound personal values:

Your Association: Who your friends are; whose words and advice do you take?

Your Words: How you see yourself in the game of life whether as a victim or a victor?

Your Thoughts: How do you tackle simple challenges, do you have a possibility or impossibility mentality?

 Your Perspective: How you perceive/interpret things, whether it is attainable or unattainable?

Life will always pave way for those who make up their mind to make a mark on the sands of time. You must understand that your purpose when aligned with your values ushers you into a life yielded to God in the service of humanity. So this week show me who your friends are and I can without fail predict the future; for whoever walks with the wise shall surely become wise.

DO MEN WANT SKINNY WOMEN?

Now this would totally make for interesting reading, I stumbled on this and I really want to share with everyone, its a bloggers thought on what men want and what they get.

Sleeping With A Skeleton
I’ve asked hundreds upon hundreds of guys what kind of body type they like on a woman and although none of them were shouting out Rosie O’Donnell and Aretha Franklin’s names, they weren’t screaming for little Miss Ally McBeal either.

All men like breasts (hello Dolly!) and all men like buns; I think Jennifer Lopez proved that one hands down (or around, whatever you prefer). Needless to say, although big flabby bellies and cellulite didn’t make the hit list, meat on a woman is thought to be attractive by virtually all men.

One particular guy, who I’ll call Lars, made an interesting point: “I like fit women. Skinny? Anyone can be skinny, but how many women can claim that they’re fit? There’s nothing more unattractive than a thin woman with no muscle tone. If that’s the case, I’d prefer a more voluptuous woman, milky if you will.”

What Do Men Like?
So what do all you guys want? Well, if men were all the same, that would be quite an easy question to answer. But alas, we’re all different and so all men have differing desires when it comes to the abundance of women that come in all shapes and sizes.

Whereas some guys prefer petite women and all the tiny things that come with them, other guys admitted that they love bigger women simply because they seem “more comfortable with themselves.” Come on, I’ve met plenty of women who could give Kiana Tom a run for her money and they were quite pleased with everything about themselves. Trust me.

But one thing that just about all these guys agreed on is that they don’t like those lollipop-looking women. You know, those caricatures with big heads that stand out from the rest of the body. It just doesn’t look healthy or attractive.

The Bigger, The Better
Although the mainstream media usually sexualizes the fit and thin, there are plenty of big boned women out there who are the object of many a man’s adoration. Anna Nicole, Camryn Manheim and even Oprah are heavily adored by men worldwide. Does their size hinder them from being sexual? No. Is it possible that guys only adore them because they’re loaded? Maybe.

But we have to come to terms with what’s happening around us. The media might be throwing skinny women in our faces all the time, but we are the ones who perpetuate the problem by letting them.

Did you know that after Renee Zellweger wrapped up filming Bridget Jones’s Diary (in which she had to gain about 20 pounds), she was supposed to do the cover for Harper’s Bazaar magazine, but they finally refused because they felt she was “too fat” to sell copies?

So is it the media that dictates what we like, or are we the ones who make the decision to ostracize portly women? I mean, Jennifer may have a dump like a truck, but let’s face it; she is not — in any way, shape or form — fat.

A lot of guys always say that “she’s too skinny” or “that’s not attractive,” but in the next breath we’ll point out a woman’s imperfections in a heartbeat — I’m a prime example of that. But it’s only normal that the bodies of supermodels and movie stars would end up serving as the norm. Not just for men, but women as well.

Oh Marilyn
There was a time when voluptuousness was embraced wholeheartedly, like in the days of seductress Marilyn Monroe. In those days, the perfect woman’s measurements were 36-26-36, like a curvy hourglass.

Nowadays, the ideal shape of a woman is 34-24-34, down by two inches, and with breast enhancements to boot, women can get as skinny as they want and retain their ample bosoms (or rather, the surgeon’s ample bosoms).

But there is some kind of breakdown somewhere. After all, the average size for women in America is 12, and most of the women in Hollywood range somewhere between sizes 2 and 5. So where does that leave the average woman? Well, it’s safe to say anywhere but Hollywood.

Heroin Chic
Long gone are the days when malnourished models with raccoon eyes were seen as glamorous and desirable. Nowadays curvy babes are back and it’s likely because men and women alike were getting sick and tired of seeing women with bodies like twelve-year-old boys plastered in every advertisement.

In walk Gisele and Laetitia and before you know it, shape is where ship is at again. God knows, I, for one, am glad to see that some women don’t feel the need to see their bones protruding before they’re satisfied with the way they look.

Guys Want Health
Obviously, no one likes a glutton; after all, it is one of the seven deadly sins. But a healthy girl who exercises and takes care of herself is quite desirable for all men. Being a size 6 isn’t really that important to most guys, it’s only when women start out as a size 6 and end up as a size 14 that we become somewhat antsy.

Men do look at models and actresses with lustful thoughts, but in reality, lust and long-term relationships don’t usually go hand in hand. So while the media shows off the virtually flawless 2% of the population, here we are watching the meatier women go by. Enjoy the view.

Culled from www.nottiehottie.over-blog.com

Very cool blogger, your view is well laid down here and I am guessing not everybody would still want a lady weighing over 200 pounds. likes vary.

Joseph Osodi signing out

WHAT DO WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE?

I was out with my wife yesterday and as we chatted, the question came up: “What do women find attractive in men?” I was curious about her take, so she said without hesitation: “Humor and confidence.” Then, she hesitated. I’m sure she wanted to name a third quality, but couldn’t make up her mind: brains? Posture? Charisma? Wit? Audacity? So we stopped and asked two girls sitting by the wayside. “Smile”, one said, and the other added: “A man’s eyes.” And I say: all of it is spot-on, and the good news is, a man can develop every attractive feature women desire. Even the eyes and the smile.

Appearance and personality

It’s funny: my intuitive answers to my friend’s questions – classic “pickup” knowledge turned into reflexes – described qualities of character, while the girls quickly responded with physical appearances – a smile, the eyes. “Visible” things. I think we’re both right. And we’re both saying the same thing.

I know a bunch of guys who know how to smile and have eyes like Terence Hill or Johnny Depp. Yet, they suck when it comes to women – and not in a good way. If I’d introduced them to the two ladies, they would have made sure to run away before boredom would render them immobile and endlessly expose them to these guys’ monotonous droning and drooling.

Yet, a man that has his personality, confidence and demeanor together will almost automatically have the smile and eyes to go with them. To become attractive, you want to work on both: personality and appearance.

Let’s look at the the skills before we explore how to get in.

Personality

To trigger attraction in a woman, you want to be:

- Challenging
- Smart
- Funny
- Confident

Traits like these build your charismatic personality. You can be challenging by playfully teasing a girl: “Oh, you just want me for my body“, “I’ll have to break up with you and keep our car and pet platypus“, “and you think that’s how you earn points with me?” Re-frame your interaction as a sexual treat that she’s trying to earn, but is in the process of losing. Continue reading

SO MUCH TO APPRECIATE

Hey Guys, it’s just one day left for the year to run out, 2010 that just started just like yesterday and in the blink of an eye it’s over, the year has had its blend of good and bad, wonderful and dull moments, Challenging seasons and great moments, I have thought to do something’s that I deliberately shut out, highs and low, its barely 2 days to go well I’m so grateful, my heart beats calmly, my eyes are filled with soft tears, I must say 2010 has been a very good year to me.

Can you find a reason to thank God for a good year? Has it been worth it, those tough decisions, times when you feel it’s all over then it just picks up again, times when the world seems to abandon you, but you round the bend and He gives you a way out.

It started with my entrance into CREDIT DIRECT LIMITED in 2010 meeting Akinwande Ademosu and colleagues with vast knowledge and experience, it didn’t take much for me to blend into the system and working with well experienced hands in a new industry gave me the urge to learn. As a Strategy and Business development executive, I have been so busy learning and working, Branch set and recruitment were some of my core responsibilities in the company, and this has kept me in the skies as we set up 6 outlets this year. I could only be grateful to God for keeping me safes all the days out of Lagos, I have toured the East, South, West and North and been totally protected.

For safety needs; I thank the Lord for his mercies, going up and about on official and personal duties

My love needs in life has been met, family, friends, nothing compares to my lovely fiancé Ono, my wonderful Boss Akinwande Ademosu, Denis Unokesan, colleagues, my entire  CDL team

I am most grateful for my team, allowing individual skills to produce result in a team, its fulfilling, the responsibilities bestowed on me to deliver. I have been through a lot in the past 11 months and for this I must say Thank you Lord.

I don’t know about you, but from where I stand I appreciate God for all He has done for me and can’t stop here, I urge you to enter the new year with a grateful and thankful heart, Appreciate God for all he has done and what He is yet to do, remember the more you thank the more you receive.

Attract all you want in the last days and set your mind to it, you would receive the best in the coming year, please share your testimonies with me here.

What are you grateful for?

BUILDING SOCIAL CONFIDENCE

Perhaps the single greatest source of life energy is positive interaction with others. Even if you were the class nerd in high school, it’s never too late to achieve social success. You can develop social confidence by following a few simple steps.

Schedule Your Social Life: To hone your social skills you have to invest time in them. You need to surround yourself with others to create a rich supply of opportunities to observe interactions and to improve upon your own social behaviors. Don’t turn down invitations. Plan outings with acquaintances you’d like to know better.

Think Positively: Insecure people approach others anxiously, feeling they have to prove that they’re witty or interesting. Self-assured people expect others to respond positively. Good conversationalists make comments that are connected to what is said to them relative to the social situation. You don’t have to be interesting. You just have to be interested.

Enter Conversations Gracefully: Timing is everything. After listening and observing on the perimeter of a group you interact with, look for an opportunity to step in. Ask a question on what someone else has already said. The idea is to use an open-ended question to let others participate. Once the conversation gets moving, back off and give others a chance to talk.

Manage Your Emotions: Social situations are incredibly complex and dynamic. They are verbal and nonverbal cues, such as facial expression and voice tone which must be interpreted before you decide on the best response all in a matter of microseconds. No one can do these without a reasonable degree of control over their own emotional states, especially negative emotions such as anger, fear, anxiety, emotions that usually arise in situations of conflict.

 Laugh a Little: Humor is the most prized social skill, the fast track to being liked. There’s no recipe for creating a sense of humor. But even in your darkest moments, strive to see the lighter side of a situation. Managing conflict without aggression requires listening, communicating, taking the perspective of others, controlling negative emotions, and problem-solving. Develop this confidence.

 Have a great week and Merry Christmas

ON A LIGHTER NOTE Vol. 7

Please don’t laugh!!!

GIRL: I have sinned. I called my boyfriend a BASTARD.

GIRL: I have sinned. I called my boyfriend a BASTARD.

PSYCHIATRIST: Well now, that’s not a nice thing to call anyone, so what did he
do to deserve that?

GIRL: Well, he kissed me.

PSYCHIATRIST:You mean like this? The psychiatrist kissed the girl

GIRL: ……Yes!

PSYCHIATRIST:Well that’s no reason to call him a BASTARD.

GIRL:But, he put his hand in my top.

PSYCHIATRIST:You mean like this? The psychiatrist put his hand in the girl’s top

GIRL:Yes!

PSYCHIATRIST:Well that’s no reason to call him a BASTARD.

GIRL:But, he took my clothes off.

PSYCHIATRIST:You mean like this? The psychiatrist took off the girl’s clothes

GIRL:Yes!

PSYCHIATRIST:Well that’s no reason to call him a BASTARD.

GIRL:But, he had sex with me!

PSYCHIATRIST:You mean like this? The psychiatrist had sex with the girl

GIRL:.Yes!

PSYCHIATRIST:Well that’s no reason to call him a BASTARD.

GIRL:But, then he told me he has

AIDS.

PSYCHIATRIST:BASTARDDDDDD!!!!!

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MY ROAD TO SPIRITUALITY

Hey guys, I’m still loving the Nokia C3, and wanting everyone to grab one, I would like to share a piece from my colleague Yvonne with you all, it’s a discussion with her inner self, and I feel it’s worth sharing, we most times forget to learn that the inner man in us needs the attention we give out and I read this piece and feel we should all somehow create your own road to spirituality.

 Enjoy…………

 “It’s quite amazing that when I look back at the four years I spent in university I begin to wonder what exactly I was thinking and would I have done a few things differently. Being in university it was very difficult to mix spirituality and a social life without getting everything wrong. It is hard to do anything concerning spirituality but when you are driven and determined you would accomplish it. Growing up I always thought it was okay to make as many mistakes as I wanted because God is a merciful and forgiving God and he will understand, it took me time to know that some mistakes can be avoided. As I was in university, I was having a major struggle with the ways of the world and that of God. But when I will remember I will go back and pray hard and beg for forgiveness, I believe I had the wrong and right set of friends because the right ones always brought me back but the wrong ones had a way of making me see that it’s right to do to do the wrong things.

  I am a socialite I like to have a good time and have drinks and chill with friends but you see the problem is that what fail to know is that anything done in excess is the beginning of your problems and  the  build gap between u and God. There is nothing wrong in having a good time and chilling with your friends it is what you do there that is the problem. I have had people at intervals talk to me about how to live my life and what to do. But the truth is that till you experience some certain things and learn how to decipher wrong from right you can never see the right in what people are saying. I love fashion I love looking good but above all I love God. Continue reading

NOKIA C3, Social media is born

Guys, looking at the above pictures you would no doubt admire the luxury that is about to hit the market, the NOKIA C3 is a must have, not only because it is from a trusted brand but because the target market which is you and I would want an active social media/messaging life, I sit down to work and my colleague Yvonne pings by the second and as vibrant socialist who seriously wants to be in constant connect with friends far and wide, this has become an epidemic and the rate service operators charge is gradually tearing holes into her pocket, well it would be good to know that the NOKIA C3 has all the functions and even more at a much cheaper cost and subscription, I wonder what would happen to the majority of those waiting and saving to own a BB, the time is now, brace up cos its only getting better.

Also the news has been around the BB and countries are soon gonna clamp down on the device. When she saw the phone with me, she actually is planning to drop hers and buy the new NOKIA C3. The price is a factor and the services awesome, chatting from the homepage without necessarily going through all the process, helps a lot for those who value fun and wants so much. Instant messaging at its best, getting so much for so less, and getting value for it,

Our messaging device range is very successful Nokia’s Head of Markets speaks “Services that provide easy access to the world’s consumer and corporate email and instant messaging are really popular on our QWERTY smart phones such as the Nokia E71 and Nokia E63. People want the best messaging and social networking experience on an affordable device, whether it’s sending a simple text or instant message, an email, or a direct message from their Twitter account. The Nokia C3, is made for just that.” 

The Nokia C3 is the first device to bring a full QWERTY keyboard to the world’s most popular mobile phone platform – Series 40 – and is the first in the range to enable access to social networks directly on the homescreen. People can view, comment, update their status and share pictures to their favorite social networks such as Facebook and Twitter.

At an estimated price of about N20,000, the Nokia C3 also comes with Ovi Mail and Ovi Chat, meaning first time users can set up email and chat accounts straight from the device, without the need for a PC. Other notable features are the Wi-Fi connectivity, a two megapixel camera, rich color 2.4 inch screen and support for up to an 8GB memory card. The Nokia C3 is expected to be available soon in shops near you in a variety of appealing colors, including golden white, slate grey and hot pink.

YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE

Thankful

Unnamed poem pulled from “The Purpose Driven Life”

 You are who you are for a reason.
You’re part of an intricate plan.
You’re a precious and perfect unique design,
Called God’s special woman or man.

You look like you look for a reason.
Our God made no mistake.
He knit you together within the womb,
You’re just what he wanted to make.

The parents you had were the ones he chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom designed with God’s plan in mind,
And they bear the Master’s seal.

No, that trauma you faced was not easy.
And God wept that it hurt you so;
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that into his likeness you’d grow.

You are who you are for a reason,
You’ve been formed by the Master’s rod.

You are who you are for a reason,
You’ve been formed by the Master’s rod.
You are who you are, beloved,
Because there is a God!

Credit -thejourneywithjesus.blogspot.com 

110 RANDOM THINGS ABOUT ME

1. Last drink→ Chi Exotic
2. Last phone call→ Shushu
3. Last text message→ My Bank (debit alert)
4. Last song you listened to→ Have a Baby by me (50 Cent)
5. Last time you cried→ Last year
SIX HAVE YOU EVER:
6. Dated someone twice → Nope
7. Been cheated on? → O Yalls
8. Kissed someone? → Of course yap
9. Lost someone special? → Nope
10. Been depressed? → Way Way Back
11. Been drunk and threw up? → Yes oh Once sha

LIST FOUR FAVORITE COLOURS:
12.Yellow
13. Blue
14. White
15. Green
HAVE YOU:
16. Made new friends → Sure always
17. Fallen out of love → Yalls
18. Laughed until you cried → well sometimes
19. Met someone who changed you → Loads of them
20. Found out who your true friends were → Yes, when I left my first job …all my friends run
21. Found out someone was talking about you → All de time
22. Kissed anyone on your friend’s list → Yes
23. How many people on your friends list do you know in real life → Ahhh…Oboy that’s Jamb
25. Do you have any pet’s → Not yet..But id love to own a Dog
26. Do you want to change your name→ Nope
27. What did you do for your last birthday → I was working on that day, and had to pay my house rent
28. What time did you wake up today → 6.02am
29. What were you doing at midnight last night → Battling the heat had to switch on the Generator which was messing up.
30. Name something you CANNOT wait for → My first Billion
31. Last time you saw your father→ Easter sunday
32. What is one thing you wish you could change about your life → My too friendly attitude
33. What are you listening to right now → My head
34. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom → well maybe Thomas,
35. What’s getting on your nerves right now? →NEPA
36. Most visited webpage → http://www.josephekwu.wordpress.com (My Blog)
37. What’s your name→ Joseph Ekwu Osodi
38. Nicknames→ Kuku
39. Favorite animal- Dogs
40. Zodiac Sign → Taurus
41. Male or female or transgendered→ Male
42. Primary→ Delta state university Primary school Abraka
43. Middle School → Delta state university Secondary school Abraka
44. High school → Same as above
45. Hair color → Black
46. Long/medium/short →Medium
47. Height → 5”8
48. Do you have a crush on someone? → Yalls
49: What do you like about yourself? → My swagger
50. Piercings → Nah
51. Tattoos → Nope
52. Righty or lefty → Righty
FIRSTS :
53. First surgery → None
54. First Piercing → None
55. First best friend – Tukola
56. First sport you joined → Football
57. First pet → None
58. First vacation→ Osun state (Golf resort)
59. First concert → Night of a thousand laffs
60. First crush →Dat girl Bubu
RIGHT NOW:
61. Eating → Nothing
62. Drinking → Nothing
63. Already missing→ Her
64. I’m about to → Finish my weekly report
65. Watching→ Nothing yet
66. Thinking about → Shagging
67. Waiting for → The Friday groove
YOUR FUTURE :
68. Want kids? → O YESSSS!!!!
69. Want to get married Yes but for the right reason and not just for the sake of getting married
70. Careers in mind → Yup
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