A man one day asked his father-in-law, “Many people applaud you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?” The father in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that it was because of her shortcomings and obvious weaknesses that she could not find a better husband than you. “We all have the innate need to be loved and treated with respect. However many people are afraid of losing visage, when they make mistakes. They are always looking for whom to blame. Some blame their spouses, colleagues, partners, kids, the society and their country. People who make mistakes often are looking around for scapegoats. This can breed wars in our relationships.
Remember this analogy, “Whenever we point one finger at others for our mistakes, the other four are actually pointing back at us reminding us to take responsibility for our mistakes and not pass on actions. Mistakes are never the issue but the attitude of accepting responsibility for the rights and wrongs of our lives. We have one life to live; we must be committed to live it on purpose, accepting responsibilities for whatever is obvious.
As we continue our daily activities, we must open enough to be confronted with other peoples obvious weaknesses of which we must learn to thread softly so we don’t take it out on them, recognizing that we also have obvious weaknesses. We must learn the golden rule of “do to others what you want them to do to you”
You should help people to develop the capacity to handle their challenges rather than compound their already battered esteem by the use of unpleasant words. We must also choose to forgive others, in their obvious weaknesses, so they can ignore or overlook ours when the table turns.
In life, we encounter different people from different background, constantly interacting with each others, you ability to work effectively without issues gives you the edge to succeed, I have experienced different temperaments and work with a lot of people, some are bossy, other like to play along, some want everything for themselves, others don’t care about you, others want to use you, drain you and dump you but what do you do? It is difficult but you need prayers to get to work with them. Continue reading